Holiday Shopping Thoughts at Fussy Busty

I just ran across this excellent guide to buying lingerie for a significant other at FussyBusty. Definitely check it out!

I especially applaud Mr. Slawson for taking into account  lesbian couples! It is really great to see people acknowledge the existence of queer people. I do quibble a with the assumption that a lesbian will necessarily know more about feminine* lingerie than will a man. In fact many lesbians, especially masculine* types, do not wear bras or other “feminine” lingerie. Some of them never have. So, they wouldn’t actually be more familiar with lingerie than most men would be. However, I think it is natural for a non-lesbian, especially a straight person, to not be aware of these things: most straight people are not aware of the intricacies of lesbian culture.  And again, I really appreciate the author’s inclusiveness.

So, if you are thinking about buying lingerie for your significant other who wears it, check out these tips! They will ikncrease the chances of your partner actually wearing what you buy for her this season 🙂

* Although I am a gender/queer person, I am not a person who thinks that we should demolish the terms “masculine” and “feminine” or that those terms are oppressive. “Masculine” and “feminine” are not words which define men or women. They are words which describe ideas and concepts involving the way we perceive gender. Eliminating those words doesn’t change the way we perceive and think about gender; for that we have to do the actual work of changing the way we perceive and think about gender.

2 thoughts on “Holiday Shopping Thoughts at Fussy Busty

  1. Thank you for the compliments and for pointing out my assumption. I appreciate that you took the time to educate me a little on the matter, and I apologize for painting with an overly broad brush. I will strive to be more accurate next time!

    • Aw, thank you so much for taking my comments in the manner they were intended. I appreciate very much that you came here to comment!

      I know that for straight people, queer people are in many ways a foreign culture, so it is natural to have some ideas that are not necessarily accurate. It was very clear that you had only positive intentions and that means a whole lot to me! So please do know that I never for a moment thought you meant anything ill by it.

      Thank you, again.

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